why do you believe in God? and why did you decide to be Muslim/follow the Islamic faith?
I believe in God because at the end of the day - no matter the circumstances - nothing really changed for me until I turned to Him. I’ve always believed in God. I guess I just didn’t know why till about junior year of high school. I was always spoon fed Islam. But one thing I just knew, you know like you just know? Is that there was a God. For me, He was always at the back burner, a last resort.
I got to a point in my life I realized that the comfort and guidance I sought - the reassurance I needed couldn’t be found in my parents, or sibling, friends or mentors. So, I turned to God. And the moment I decided to always turn to God first …everything else fell into place (:
Simply put - I believe in God because He has given me more than enough reason to. And I am a Muslim because Islam is what resonates well with me and everything I stand for and hope to become, iA.
how do you transition from wearing hijab to not? I started wearing hijab four months ago but its been really stressful. And I'm sure the crap people will give me for taking it off will be a lot, but I'm not sure it'll compare with the marginalization of being the only hijabi on a predominantly white campus. I've never been entirely convinced hijab was mandatory, but I did it because it was something I really wanted to do and being covered felt more comfortable. But its been exhausting. advice?
I’m not entirely sure what to tell you in terms of taking it off because I ended up putting it back on. I realized what it meant for me - I know that I felt utterly uncomfortable- more so than I did with it on.
I’ve only been wearing the hijab for 2 years now! And let me tell ya it has not been easy whatsoever. There were days I was so close, SO CLOSE, to taking it off. But my reasons were entirely vain and materialistic. I knew I was stronger than that - I just didn’t want to believe it because it gets hard. To go from seamlessly ‘fitting in’ to sticking out like a sore thumb covered in a paisley scarf.
I understand it can be stressful. But I think you have to remember why you wore it. You said being covered felt more comfortable. Are you willing to compromise that? Being the only hijabi at a predominantly white school can be very intimidating and overwhelming. But just as it has it’s downside - imagine the advantages of how distinct you are. How maybe your perseverance and determination could inspire others to follow?
There came a point I had a on and off period. Then eventually I got fed up with my wish washiness and I took my hijab off for a week…. and I felt naked. I talked out my discomfort with close friends and family - muslim and non muslim - hijabi and non-hijabi, I talked to people that I knew genuinely cared for my well being and personal growth. I didn’t turn to the ones that I knew would only tell me what I wanted to hear.
It gets hard but I had friends who supported me stand by my side - regardless of headscarf or not. You gotta find those that are willing to accept you - that understand you- with or without headscarf. I know what the hijab means to me and I am not the type to sacrifice the value it gives me and the mentality it puts me in - that’s what I realized in taking it off.
You are right. You will get crap. Regardless of what you do you will get crap. Thats life. People judge you regardless of what your choices are. At the end of the day it comes down to what you can handle and how well you handle it. I think you have to mentally prepare yourself. The headscarf doesn’t define you as much as your actions do.
Reflect on how it purely impacts YOU. Cause at the end of the day its what will build or break you. Not anyone else. but YOU. Do whatever you think will genuinely make you stronger.
Sometimes walking to class is my favorite part of my day. I am always amazed by the hundreds of stories, experiences…people, I’m surrounded by. Like hundreds of little books walking with me. I am astounded by the glimpses and tidbits I am blessed to encounter in mere passing. A smile, a glance, fragments of so many different yesterdays, todays, and tomorrows.
Look up from your phone. Take out your headphones. Look around. Live. Be.
You run into so much of the world from a 10 minute walk right down the street.
Sidenote: Happy Monday everyone! Wish you all the best and an easy week. And for those who have finals, I’m right there with ya! :)
Hey, lets be honest. I try. I really do try. God only knows. I pray 5 times a day, or for the most part, attempt to. I read Qur’an. I try my hardest to decipher wrong from right, and act upon the latter. But don’t be here telling me how to wrap my scarf or what it means. I know what it means for me. I know what it does for me. I could give two cruds about your opinions on how you think I should live my life. Will your opinions be taken into consideration? Yes. But at the end of the day I answer to no one but Allah. I am who I am. And who I am happens to wear the scarf. This is not for you. This is my method of getting to where I feel I need to be, day by day, step by step, at a pace that is working for me. This is my journey. Not yours, your moms, and your imams, and your aunties down the street.
I’m doing me. You do you. If you have advice, CONSTRUCTIVE criticism, kindly pull the person aside and have a HEALTHY CONVERSATION instead of holding them accountable publicly as you shove your opinions down their throat. I promise you if you were to do that to me, I’d vomit all over you.
I’m not going to apologize for looking good while I do all of the above.
Help one another rise. Sometimes what is your idea of encouragement could be discouragement for another individual.
All I know is I love my hijab. The attitude and mentality it gives me. I love it for how far it has gotten me. I enjoy standing out - I enjoy knowing that when I do something good in the publics eye they know it is a Muslim doing it - and I am humbled when I am doing something wrong because it is reminder that the world sees it as a Muslim doing it - thus allowing me opportunities to reflect and reevaluate myself constantly.
Hijab for me, MY hijab, in all of its multitude of layers, twists, colors, confidence, determination, endurance, honesty, the way I dress, style, think, proceed, execute, fall, and rise, has been one of my biggest motivations.
I will not let you turn it into something else just because you fail to walk a mile in my hijab - brothers, I could see how you would have a hard time with this, haha.
Sometimes all we need is understanding. That’s it. I understand in asking for understanding, you have to be the same in return - speaking for myself, I try my very hardest to.
I try. The point is, I try.
“…It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.”
Guys. I woke up this morning. And checked instagram.
I SCROLL THROUGH MY NOTIFICATIONS AND NOTICED THAT I HAD LIKE 20<3’s FROM THE SAME PERSON. AND THEY WERE ALL FROM ONE OF MY FAVORITE PHOTOGRAPHERS OF ALL TIMEEEE.
AND HE HIT ME UP TO DO A PHOTOSHOOT WITH HIM. EVERYONE MAKE DUA. OMG. ALHAMDULILLAH.
WHY IS LIFE SO GOOD TO ME SOMETIMES? Idk.
Oh jeez. Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah. I sincerely ask that you allplease pray that I can make this happen, iA. I kinda wanna stalk him more behind the camera and see his technique rather than be in front of it. BUTT HOLLLYYYY MOLLLLYYYY.